These
days we often hear the term Bullying, what is called the Bullying?
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it is meant by bullying, check this out ....
Definition
From
various sources I gather, all agree defines bullying as an act which disturb
others, can be physical, verbal, or emotional. Bullying behavior is often seen
as coercion or attempted physical or psychological harm to the person or group
who is "weak" by a person or group of people who perceive themselves
more "robust". This act of coercion or harm occurs within a group,
for example, a group of students in the school. It could be the shape is the
act of hitting, pushing, taunting, threatening, memalak money, harassing, dub,
abusive, libelous, spreading rumors, discriminate, and so forth. Today,
bullying not only be done face to face, but it can be by e-mail, chat, internet
containing messages that offend others.
Bullying
is the use of power or strength to hurt a person or group of people , a
threatening behavior , oppressive , and make other people feel uncomfortable .
This action is done in a period once , many times , even often or becomes a
habit . Means , in fact bullying is violence which is not limited only occur among
students at school , whoever and wherever they can experience this action.
Bullying
is some kind of action:
1.
Psychological as malign, humiliate, frighten, rejecting, abusive, harassing,
shrink, laugh, threatening, spreading rumors. pout, and silence
2.
Physical such as kick, slap, hit, pinched, punched, tweak, run laps, push-ups,
clean toilets, and memalak.
3.
Verbal like yelling, teasing, name-calling, name calling, cursing, scolding and
cursing.
Bullying
is still an event that occurred some time to bloom last. Maybe some of us have
heard this term, but many of us are not aware that "bullying" rampant
around us. KPAI in 2013 noted that 181 cases of bullying led to the deaths, 141
cases of severe injuries and 97 cases of minor injuries.
The
word bullying - even though less precise - often equated with violence,
bullying or intimidation. Basically, bullying is defined as negative behavior
that resulted in a person in a state of discomfort or hurt and usually occurs
repeatedly. Bullying as a form of "abuse" or physical and emotional
abuse has three main characteristics, namely: deliberate (actors tend to hurt
someone), repeated (the target is often the same person and occur repeatedly)
and power imbalance (offenders choose victims who are considered vulnerable).
Bullying
can occur anywhere, but is often found in the school environment. Bullying
occurs due to an imbalance of power between the perpetrator is more powerful
and the target (victim) weaker. From the side of the offender, the tendency to
do the bullying caused by environmental conditions that shape the personality
of aggressive and less able to control emotions. The environment is meant,
among others, upbringing in the family, the family's own conditions, social
conditions surrounding environment and information media technology available
today.
Bullying
was not only includes physical abuse such as we often hear, but also can occur
in various forms. Various forms of bullying among others: direct physical
contact (acts of physical violence such as slaps and punches), direct verbal
contact (words ridicule, insults and accusations), non-verbal behavior directly
(derogatory expressions such as sticking her tongue), an indirect non-verbal
behavior (via sms media, the internet and other social networks), as well as
sexual harassment.
The
victims who received bullying behavior in any form potentially traumatic
psychic impact on kehidupannnya. Signs and symptoms that arise, among others,
symptoms are non-specific physical, psychosomatic disorders, school avoidance
behavior, changes in social behavior, indicators of emotional, behavioral
changes are alarming and deteriorating health indicators. Signs and symptoms
mentioned above can be a concern for parents, so that when encountered on your
son or daughter, to think that they have become victims of bullying, so that
they can be handled as soon as possible.
Bullying
can have a major impact to the lives of both victims and perpetrators of
bullying. The impact can be categorized as short-term impact and long-term
impact. For victims, their short-term impact will tend to avoid the school
environment or the environment in which the actors are and the emergence of
psychosomatic disorders and long-term effects may be when they mature personal
minder, anti-social and suspicious of others. In addition it also has the
potential to become a victim of bullying new bullies in the future as a form of
release for what he has received. As for the perpetrators of bullying itself
will tend to take advantage of the power continuously, and grow into an aggressive,
have poor emotional control and an easy or vulnerable to perpetrators of
criminal acts.
Prevention
of bullying on children should involve various stakeholders, among others,
family, school and community. Family as the nearest person has a duty to
educate children with parenting right, avoiding an authoritarian parenting and
set a good example in the behavior and actions. Schools as institutions that
are believed to provide tiered education is responsible for controlling the
limits relationships between students and conduct surveillance on the incidence
of bullying in the school environment.
Treatment
for victims of bullying should be done with the psychological approach of
family, school psychologists and practitioners who are competent and in some
cases required special intervention. Support from family, school and
environment that is directly in contact with the victim is required in the
handling of victims and perpetrators of bullying, so that similar incidents do
not recur.
Impact
for victims
The
victim will usually feel negative emotions, such as anger, resentment,
depression, fear, shame, sad, uncomfortable, threatened, but not powerless. In
the long term, this condition can develop feelings of inferiority and
worthlessness. In fact, not infrequently there who want to get out and move to
another school. If they remained in situ, they usually disturbed concentration
and academic achievement or often deliberately not attending school. More
severe psychological impact is the possibility for the emergence of problems in
the victims, such as excessive anxiety, always fearful, depressed, and
suicidal.
Handling
The
most ideal is that if there are policies and integrated actions involving all
components ranging from teachers, students, principals, to parents, which aims
to stop the bullying behavior and ensure safety for victims. Anti-bullying
programs in schools conducted among others by means of intensified surveillance
and sanctions appropriate to the offender, or conduct campaigns through a
variety of ways. Bullying insert into learning material will positively impact
the personal development of the pupils.
Individual
empowerment for children
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Give a chance for children to want to communicate openly with parents,
teachers, or other adults they trust can help them. Fertilizer closeness,
respect his feelings if it is vent, no rescue of negative emotions, but empower
him. Experiencing difficult conditions will form a resistance to him.
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Tell your child that none of the most appropriate way to deal with bullying, the
way it looks right for one may not be appropriate for another. What is
important is that the child has been tried, knowing a wide selection of ways,
and can decide who can help so far. Advice to ignore the perpetrator's actions
could have been given, but it does not always succeed. Other strategies need to
be done.
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Train children to dare to speak, in other words, act assertively. Let the
offender know that the child is not comfortable with the treatment, but the
words were not behind the hurt and does not condone the bullying continues.
Children as victims have the right to defend themselves, and there is a clever
way to do it. Make sure the child speaking in a way that solves the problem and
not create more problems with others.
Patti
Criswell (2009) in his book, Stand up for Yourself and Your Friends, gives some
tips for children as victims look strong and can stand up to the perpetrators:
1.
Acting confident: it is head and shoulders, look at the eyes of the
perpetrators without intending to challenge and keep the noise to remain stable
while talking. Acting confident will help the child feel more confident.
2.
Rest: if confidence fades child, ask the child away from the situation.
3.
Try to remain calm: children are trained to try to express distracted or bored.
Do not let the offender know she managed to disturb him.
4.
Cool the self: to drink or splash water on the face to help soothe feelings of
heat.
5.
Breathe deeply. Breath to enter self-confidence and strength, and remove the
feelings of stress and worry.
6.
Remove alone: think about the adults in the school who can listen and help if
the child has a tough day. If not, write down the feelings so that the child
can talk about it when I got home.
7.
Train a child in order not to try to take revenge, because two wrongs do not
make be true. Do not ask others to take sides, because it will only continue to
quarrel. Do not stay at home to avoid the bully at school. Do not act
hysterical-avoid yelling, whining, and loss of control.
We
can also stop the bullying by way of rebuke and said "Stop it, it's not
funny at all !!". If such was not possible, immediately report the adults.
"Stand
up for Yourself and Your Friends" - Patti Criswell"We gotta
make change. It's time for us as a people to start makin' some
changes. Let's change the way we live, let's change the way we eat, and
let's change the way we treat each other. You see, the old way
wasn't working, so it's on us to do what we gotta do to survive." – Tupac
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